Cheap Forgiveness

but I knew was within his skill sets, because he talked about it.

 
He agreed to do it, but it never got done. After a time, he came to me and said something to the effect,
“I didn’t get this done, but you have to forgive me.” End of conversation. Hmmm.

 
Somehow, he made me the obligatory party, the one with the burden to carry. This was very poorly handled.

 
People should not immediately agree to do something when asked.
They should say, “Let me think about it to see if I have the time and wherewithal to do this properly. I will get back to you.”

 
Another aspect of Cheap Forgiveness.

 
It seems to me that part of asking for forgiveness 

is more than just walking into the same room as the victim and saying “Sorry.”.

 
1) It seems that a complete confession would include the perpetraitor (spelling intentional) explaining the offense in detail, 

    with the victim adding his perspective, to make sure the offender understands how the victim sees the offense.
2) Then the perp should speculate as to what brought him to act like this.
3) Then they should come up with a plan where the perp can see this coming again in the future 

     and what steps to take to avoid a repeat performance.

I used the be a part of a safety committee at an RV plant where I worked, building 5th wheel campers. 

When an accident happened,

1) The first step was to identify the accident. 

2) The next step was to autopsy the events and decisions leading up to the accident. 

3) The third step was to design a set of actions, which in those same work patterns, would prevent a re-occurrence of the accident.

 
Fail to plan, plan to fail.

It works with sin, too.